Embracing fear, taking a risk

Fear rushes towards me. All of my cells scream “no!”

Don’t worry. I’m not in any real danger. I’m just sitting at my writing desk with my iPhone in my hand and my thumb hovering over the share button of a Facebook post.

I’m on the verge of putting my first holistic counseling service offer into the world and it feels like I’m about to step off the edge of a cliff and go splat in a way that not even the ever flexible Gumby could recover from.

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I don’t have to do this, I know. Nobody’s making me do it. I could delete the draft post, put the phone down and just walk away, or I could use the classic deferral tactic and tell myself I’ll do it next week or another day and that day will come and I can just defer it again.

But you see, this is what my heart wants:
To take risks even if I might fail.
To offer what I have to give even if there is no one out there to receive what I have to offer.
To support other sensitive souls through their doubts and fear so that they can step towards their dreams and callings and give their gifts that the world so desperately needs.

My heart has wanted this for a long time, but it’s my mind that has surveyed the future and identified all the potential risks, harm and downfall. (Risk management assessment is a particularly strong skill of mine that has helped me succeed in the business world.)

My mind protests loudly. It digs its heels firmly into the ground. “You’re not going any further. You’re safe here where you are,” it asserts.

For a moment, I contemplate not taking that step and I feel like this…

 
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Yes, this is what playing it safe can look like on the inside. Try the posture on yourself. It doesn’t feel very good.

Our protective parts will do anything to keep us safe.

They make up a lot of stories, often of the type that don’t have a happy ending.  They tend to overlook the potential for success, freedom, and joy.

They can speak very powerfully with authority but they actually don’t know what the future holds. Nobody does. The only way to find out is to go there.

Whenever we take a risk, fear can arise. It’s a normal response especially when we think of risk in terms of danger or uncertainty instead of opportunity or even thrill. Fear can be heightened for those who are highly sensitive like me.

I don’t believe there is a standard approach to facing and crossing these edges in our lives. We must determine our individual response each time we face an edge that is unique to our life and who we are.

Sometimes the response that feels right is to feel the fear and leap.
Sometimes, we must stand at the edge for a while dreaming into what lies on the other side.
Sometimes we must walk up to the edge then walk away many times before we are ready to take that step.

This time I stood at the edge with fear rushing towards me. I slowly leaned towards the edge of my known and unknown worlds, millimetre by millimetre. As I did, I came into closer contact with the fear.

I held my ground and just felt the sensations that were in and around my body as they grew and grew until I realised it wasn’t actually fear I was feeling.

It was my very life force rushing through me.

All of my cells pulsed with aliveness, not fear. It’s an aliveness I feel now in my body as I write about that experience and further embody it. It’s an incredibly strong power and vibrant light.

Fuelled by my aliveness not fear, I pressed share on that post and published it on Facebook. And guess what?

My world didn’t end. 

I didn’t splat onto the ground. I didn’t get the outcome I hoped for but nothing bad happened at all. Instead something very unexpected happened. I came into direct contact with my own life force and power.

Marianne Williamson wrote, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

The way to liberate yourself from fear is not to turn away from it, not to bypass it, not to step over or around it but to allow it to be there and consciously build your own relationship with it.

Slow down here. Don’t rush. This is hallowed ground.

Be curious about about your fear and the sensations in your body. Is it really fear you are feeling? Ask it questions and check how true the response is. Dialogue with it.

Investigate your beliefs about taking a risk or achieving success.

Feel your way through it into your own power. It’s right there waiting for you.

Is there something you’re afraid of that’s holding you back? I’d love the opportunity to support you through it.  Consider working with me 1:1.

With love and courage,

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Your true wealth

 

To truly know the definition of being rich, sit silently and listen.

The clock ticks the passing of time.

Birds chirp sunset’s song.

Breath continuously comes and goes.

For a moment, the mind stops searching  for something in the future that may never come and something in the past that’s already gone.

As you listen, and as you breathe, feel yourself settle more deeply into your body.

Feel how sacred this moment is. This is where your true wealth lies.

I always wondered  how I could live my life as a prayer but never found the answer until now.

Just be silent. Listen. Breathe.

With love,

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Tell me your dream, my love

 

Tell me your dream, my love.

What magic do you want to bring into this world?

What ingenuity do you want to make real?

What pain do you want to help heal?

What work place do you want to transform with kindness and compassion so that it truly serves a heart-centred vision first, and profits second?

What love story do you want to live whether it’s happily ever after or whether it cracks your heart open more widely than you ever imagined it could open?

How do you want to live so that everyday your heart sings in joyful aliveness?

How do you want to be the change that this world is longing for?

What adventure do you want to take? What path do you want to walk? What mountain do you want climb? What oceans do you want to sail? What far land sings it’s summoning song to you?

What creativity is longing to be expressed through you? Is it a book, a painting, a photograph, a song? What offering of your heart do you want to gift this world to bring ease, to heal or inspire the heart of another?

Just for this moment, don’t speak of your fears or the barriers to bringing your dreams to life.
Instead, tell me how your cells quiver in excitement when you speak of your dreams.
Tell me how your longing begins to burn stronger when you give yourself permission to speak freely and unrestrained about what you truly want.
Tell me how your Soul feels when it knows it has been heard.

Come closer to your dreaming, one breath at a time, one word at a time, whisper it if you must.
Speak of it as if it is alive here now, not some day far away.
Feel all the possibility and magic that is here right now.

Let me see how your longing lights you up from the inside out.
You are magnificent. You are a living field of possibility.
Your light is the fuel you will need.
Your light is the medicine that will set other souls aflame.

Tell me your dream, my love.
Let the words pour through you uncensored.
Allow your dreaming to be expressed. Don’t hide it or push it away. Let it be alive in you now.
This is an intimate embrace of your own heart.
This is how you start to embody your dream into life.

With love and courage,

Kym xx



My dream is to hold a sacred space for you where together we alchemise your dreams and callings into life. If this calls to you, then contact me to find out out about my current special introductory offer that is available for a limited time or check out my Work with Me page.

Softly, softly the tender heart

 

Softly, softly the tender heart

aching with a sensitivity that longs to be cradled.

Pause, here in this moment.

Don’t turn away to the escape of distraction.

Your to do list can wait.

So can your emails, messages, notifications

and everything else that’s happening in the outside world, 

especially everything in the social sphere.

Here now is your overdue task:

Loving your own heart exactly as it is  with all it’s pain, fear, confusion and sadness.

Stay here, and love your heart.

Don’t turn away.

Don’t abandon it 

because you don’t know what to do with everything that you’re feeling,

or how to make the feelings stop or go away.

Instead stay here and be tender.

Hold your heart as you would hold a scared or crying child.

Love it gently and relentlessly so it can rest safe in your own care,

so that everything it’s really not can dissolve

back into the angelic arms of your own love.

With love and courage,

Kym xx

My invitation to you

It’s time to start listening to that quiet voice of wisdom within.

It’s time to cultivate the courage to acknowledge and follow your soul’s guidance and forge your own unique path.

No more avoidance, ignoring, procrastinating or holding back.

No more pretending that you haven’t been chosen for your soul’s mission.

The fear won’t go away but as you build courage your ability to hold the tension in your body will grow so the fear will seem less.

As you follow your heart’s callings, deep joy and aliveness will be your new companions.

As you say yes to what’s true for you and no to what’s false, you will strengthen your inner compass and your connection to your soul.

The world needs your soul’s medicine, your voice, your gifts, your courage, your ideas, your fully expressed essence, your truth in whatever form it takes to express you.

Your soul needs you to come home and whole, to be fully you in this world.

Stop comparing. Stop looking outside of yourself for where you fit in. You were never born for that. You belong because you were born.

Stop trying to fit yourself in a box, that’s way too limiting. Take up space. Create your own new shape.

Your life has lead you to this moment.

Now is the time to say YES.

Now is the time to start your real work in this world, untaming and becoming wildly yourself.


If you find yourself saying YES as you read this, then I invited you to lean into that momentum and take action now. Sign up to my newsletter list as I am about to release a one time only special introductory offer to work with me 1:1 at a significant discount. Or if you can’t wait and are ready right now then get in touch ASAP.
With love and courage,
Kym xx

Don’t hold back, your inspiration is the medicine we need

Don’t hold back, your inspiration is the medicine we need

Out of nowhere, inspiration flares as you receive an idea about something to write, paint, create, dance, make.  It lights you up as excitement and possibility surge through your body.

Then one of two things happen:

  1. Your mind interrupts the flow with all the reasons of why it is a stupid idea:

    It’s unoriginal, a waste of time, a waste of energy, a waste of money;
    It won’t lead anywhere or to anything;
    No one will be interested in it;


    OR

2.     Some other part of your life gets in the way. 

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