Reflections on inner change, awareness, and lived experience
Writing that explores what we experience beneath the surface — in moments of change, uncertainty, and becoming
This space holds reflections, insights, and observations from both practice and lived experience.
I write for those moving through periods of uncertainty, transition, or inner change who are wanting to understand their experience more deeply.
These writings are not here to instruct or fix anything.
They are simply offered as points of reflection and recognition.
You’ll find writing on:
— inner change and spiritual experience
— emotional, psychological, energetic, and spiritual layers of life
— sensitivity, embodiment, and awareness
— grief, thresholds, and transition
— navigating life from a more grounded inner clarity
Some pieces are recent and reflect my current way of working and understanding.
Others are from earlier stages of my work and carry a different tone. Both belong.
Take what resonates. Leave what doesn’t.
And if something stirs in you — a question, a knowing, a desire to connect — I’d love to hear from you.
Why it's okay to feel stuck, anxious, and unsure
Feeling stuck, anxious, or overwhelmed? It's okay. This article offers compassionate guidance on embracing your current experience, finding peace in the messiness of life, and allowing healing to unfold naturally. You're not alone in this journey
You’re not too sensitive or too emotional or ‘too much’ of anything
For too long you’ve been told that you’re too sensitive, too emotional, too shy, too weird, too deep, too complex, too quiet, too different, too much of the vibrant living qualities that make you you and unique.
You might have heard it from your parents or caregivers or siblings when you were growing up. And even now you’re all grown up, you might still hear it from them. Maybe you heard it from friends, colleagues or bosses. You’ve most likely absorbed it from media, advertising and collective messaging.
Grief is not the price of love (written and video blog)
“Grief is the price of love” is a quote attributed to English psychiatrist Colin Murray Parkes and one that I often see shared on social media, usually by those who have lost someone they love and are in a long and deep grief process; it gives some solace, explanation and justification for the pain they are experiencing and it’s longevity.
However, this perspective offers a limited understanding of the complex nature of both grief and love. And it can cause you to diminish, invalidate or ignore grief that arises that isn’t associated with love. This disenfranchisement of grief can lead to loneliness and isolation and exacerbate the pain you are experiencing as well as the longevity of your grief.
Continue to blog to watch my Youtube video below or keep reading the written article….
How to use radical compassion to help yourself through a freeze state (or any difficult emotion or experience)
Some members of my community have been telling me that they’re in various states of freeze that they've been in for quite some time, or that they’re really challenged by going into a freeze response in certain situations such as being criticised by a loved one or having anger directed towards them.
So in this helpful article, I explain:
what a freeze state is
why you can get stuck in a freeze response
the typical approaches people react to a freeze and why they don’t work
how radical self-compassion can help yourself get out of a freeze state; and
I take you through Tara Brach’s RAIN process combined with somatic touch to help you through a freeze/shutdown response or any challenge you may be experiencing
BONUS audio recording of me taking you through the RAIN and somatic touch process for radical self-compassion
Become a Safe Space to Process Your Emotions for Liberation and Wisdom
Sometimes when I’m working a big growth edge in my life, I wake up feeling fear and dread in my stomach, mostly fear. When I feel intense feelings that I don’t like my old pattern is to get rid of it by pushing it away, ignoring it or dissociating from it. This was how I survived some overwhelming felt experiences in my childhood.
The problem is that these strategies may bring some temporary relief but they aren’t very effective in the long-term. Resisting any unwanted feeling tends to amplify it and can lock it in, especially if the feeling is coming from a young part of you that needs your holding and care and another part of you is pushing it away. Trying to ignore it on the other hand can lead to reactive behavior or disconnecting from the body you are here to inhabit and fully live through.
In this article I will explain:
the role your feelings play in your life and why they matter
what you need to know about tending to your feelings (and what not to do)
and how to become a safe space for you feelings so that you don’t get stuck in them and can discover the wisdom they may hold
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