Reflections on inner change, awareness, and lived experience
Writing that explores what we experience beneath the surface — in moments of change, uncertainty, and becoming
This space holds reflections, insights, and observations from both practice and lived experience.
I write for those moving through periods of uncertainty, transition, or inner change who are wanting to understand their experience more deeply.
These writings are not here to instruct or fix anything.
They are simply offered as points of reflection and recognition.
You’ll find writing on:
— inner change and spiritual experience
— emotional, psychological, energetic, and spiritual layers of life
— sensitivity, embodiment, and awareness
— grief, thresholds, and transition
— navigating life from a more grounded inner clarity
Some pieces are recent and reflect my current way of working and understanding.
Others are from earlier stages of my work and carry a different tone. Both belong.
Take what resonates. Leave what doesn’t.
And if something stirs in you — a question, a knowing, a desire to connect — I’d love to hear from you.
Feeling anxious, stressed or panicked? Read my love letter for your stuck or panicked soul
Dear lost, searching, trying, sensitive soul,
If change has been forced upon you. If the rug has been pulled out from under your feet.
If what you had is lost or taken from you and you’ve been thrown into a sudden abyss of darkness and uncertainty. If your way is lost, you’ve lost your vision, become directionless, disoriented, confused and you don’t know what to do, who or where to turn to.
Your body may be panicking. You might be fearful and anxious, desperate and scrambling to find a way out of your situation. Your nervous system will be automatically making you react into fight, flight, freeze or fawn.
But don’t rush to take the first step that comes to mind to get you out of your experience and away from where you don’t want to be unless the house is on fire or you are in some other kind of immediate danger. Don’t scramble to retrace your steps to find out where you went wrong to end up in this place for nothing is wrong despite what you may think. This may be confusing but stay with me and you’ll understand.
The biology of stuckness: how your nervous system can stop you achieving your dreams and what to do about it
There will be times in your life, when change is forced upon you, the rug is pulled out from under your feet, where what you had is lost or taken from you and you are thrown into a sudden abyss of darkness and uncertainty. The way is lost.
You may feel immense fear, panic, dread, and confusion, worry or even numbness or shame.
When things stop working in your life or where you are trying to reach a goal but can’t find your way to get there, you can easily jump to the conclusion that something is wrong, that you’ve made a mistake and that you need to fix things to make it work again.
There is a biological reason for this. …
What is healing (and what it’s not)
What does healing mean? As with many words in the English language, we give them different and multiple meanings so that not even different dictionaries define healing in exactly the same way.
In this article, I provide dictionary definitions of healing, the etymology of the word healing, describe what healing isn’t and give my definition of healing.
The power of liminal places for healing and change
During the course of your life you will arrive in liminal spaces many times where you finish one chapter in your life but the next one hasn’t started yet or when you know you need to make changes but don’t know what to do or are avoiding change. Being in a liminal time in your life can make you feel fear, worry, anxiety, uncertainty and even panic. You feel the fear because this is an incredible and powerful window of opportunity.
Creating a safe space this festive season
Merry. Happy. Jolly. Joy. These are some of the most used words at this time of year.
But the reality for many people is that they don’t feel merry, happy, jolly or joyful. They are experiencing sadness, grief, loneliness, depression and anxiety. This might be you too.
These feelings can be exacerbated at this time of year because there is an expectation and focus on being festive and joyful to the exclusion of these other feelings that are ignored or pushed aside or even shamed (along the lines of “It’s Christmas! Be happy!”) These other feelings want and deserve care, attention and a place at the table as well.
7 causes of lack of safety and how you’re affected (even if you think you’re safe)
Not feeling safe is at the core of many of your struggles, worries and problems. But even if your life feels okay and you think you feel pretty safe, you will still be affected by a lack of safety, you just might not realise it. In this article, I’ll reveal how lack of safety exists and how it affects you.
What is it like to not be safe? Here’s 31 signs that you might be affected by lack of safety
Not feeling safe is more common than you realise. You might not know that you don’t feel fully safe or that what you’re really seeking though your goals and actions in the world is deeper levels of safety. So here’s my list of 31 signs that a lack of safety might be impacting your life.
What does it mean to feel safe? A soulful definition and 5 core components of safety
Many people don’t feel truly safe, they just don’t know that’s what they are experiencing. Here's my definition of safety and the 5 core components that contribute to feeling safe to help you understand what it means to be safe and assess how safe you feel.
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